I'm a really private/paranoid person. Why is your screening so stringent?

The only thing I have left to say about screening that hasn't been said is: A person who does not care about your safety or privacy is not going to screen you. A cop is not going to screen you, a "managed" girl is not going to screen you.
There are providers who would like to screen you, but struggle to stay housed and fed, so take the risk instead. How do you feel about yourself seeing someone who has to comprimse their safety to see you just to stay alive? I always find it peculiar that actual important people send me their screening info, no problem, while Gary, lead salesman of the Honda dealership in Walla Walla acts like he's guarding nuclear codes. If you have a problem with how challenging it is for a woman to stay physically safe at her job, perhaps you should expend your energy contacting legislators and changing opressive laws, rather than pushing the boundaries of marginalized professionals.

How do I know I'm going to get my money's worth?

If you have a list of menu items you want to check off, move along. If you don't feel like it's worth it unless a provider did xyz, we're not a good fit. If you need me to spell things out for you, I think you're a legal safety risk to yourself and others. I assure you, I provide a standard but exceptional experience. Part of the excitement is rolling the dice. You don't know that our chemistry is going to match up until we meet in person. But I guarantee if you don't have a list of expectations and come with an open heart and mind, you'll have a great time.

I have a disability/am neurodivergent/have PTSD. Can I still see you?

YES! Of course! Kindness and depth of soul are by far the most attractive qualities to me; the rest is just details. My building is ADA accessible, and I have experience working with neurodivergent folks, as well as folks with trauma and PTSD. Building and earning trust are important to me, and every human has the right to experience pleasure in their body, regardless of how it functions.

Poppy, I tried to contact you and never heard back?

Was your message so short that I didn’t feel you had a personal interest in me? Was it lewd or crass? Did you call me "Baby?" Did you not provide any details about yourself? Was your screening info incomplete? Was it so full of errors as to make it unreadable? Did you write a message the length of a novella and expect me to read it? If none of these apply, it must have been lost in the void. Please try again.

We have such a great connection; can we hang out sometime off the clock?

I love spending time with you, but this is my business. It’s important to both our emotional healths to maintain boundaries and limits. And think about it, you may adore some of your clients, but would it make much business sense to provide your services for free? Examine why you think people in this specific industry should spend time with you for free when you wouldn't expenct that of someone in another industry, especially a man. Examine your focus on your own experience, rather than the reality of the situation, i.e. "I feel good, so that person also feels good in the same way." Ask yourself what you have to offer a provider in the place of that money. How will she support herself with your attention alone, instead of your money?

You seem like a stickler for hygiene. What's up with that?

Seriously? You've been marinating in your own juices all day. You've touched so many door handles covered in viruses and fecal matter. You take a dump and think that dry paper somehow magically cleans your ass, meanwhile your sweat is accumulating in your crack and migrating the risiduals from your bowel movement to your entire crotch area. You get in the shower, add luke warm water but NO soap and NO scrubbing, come out smelling like a wet dog, and then you want me to touch you? Do yourself a favor and read this; it's the lord's work:

Gifting is my love language; can I bring you something?

OMG! I love presents and tips. They are absolutely not expected or required, but will make me giddy with joy. I have a handful of ideas listed on my More About Me page.

What do you do with my identity info?

Basically nothing. I save it until the the completion of our first session, and then I delete it. Frankly, I don't even save numbers. I keep a text thread, so I can see that you've visited me before. But the identity verification is really just to help me feel safe for our first meeting. It's an act of transparency and good faith on your part.

But how do I know I can trust YOU?

There is this amazing thing called the internet, and you can use it to research me. First of all, I have created this entire website for you to get a sense of who I am. Where's your website, buddy? But just off the top of my head you could: Google my email address and number, reverse search my images, check out my Twitter and Instagram feeds, google my name along with relevant search terms and see what comes up. I've been around for a while.

Providers have discriminated against me in the past, because I belong to a marginalized group. Do you have any exclusions?

I only exclude assholes, my friend. I'm really sorry to hear that you had that experience. The world has a long way to come, in terms of confronting colonization, white supremacy, patriarchy, and toxic masculinity. I strive to be intersectional, and am focused on "doing the work." If you are a transfeminine or disabled POC and my rates are out of reach, feel free to ask about sliding scale or even a referal to another provider with rates within your reach. I'm happy to make recommendations, so you don't have to deal with the work of finding legitimate and friendly providers.

Do you do trades?

Yup! I trade all my services for cold hard cash.

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